If he dominates at Scrabble,
consider him a great candidate for siring your future child.
1. He helps around the house.If he’s content to sit through a Pawn Stars marathon while you vacuum his Cheetos dust, that does not bode well for his enthusiasm to pitch in with feeding and diaper-changing. But if he’s more than happy to throw a few chickens on the Foreman for dinner and put away his own boxer briefs, he’ll be a hot hands-on dad who's down for bath time. Parenting is no joke, so the more he helps now, the more helpful — and nurturing — he’s likely to be with a kid.
2. He’s good under pressure.When you got lost on that hike in the middle of the rainforest, did he break out in hives and resign himself to sudden death? Or did he make like a Survivor contestant, spear a fish, and serve you an alfresco dinner atop a log? If the latter, congratulations: He can handle a simultaneously screaming and shitting baby at 2 a.m.!
3. He’s doesn't take life too seriously …Sometimes he pins you down and tickles you while laughing wickedly. Or you hear him LOLing by himself in the other room while watching South Park. Having a silly, playful side will make him a fun dad who isn’t afraid to bust out some baby talk, become BFFs with Sophie the Giraffe, and make your baby laugh really hard.
4. … but he has his shit together.Maybe he has a 401(k) or remembers to change the carbon monoxide detector. Perhaps he has the cable bill on auto-pay, or moves you out of the way when you’re jaywalking and you're about to get hit by a car. This is not to say that you're not also financially sound or able to snake a drain, but these are some dead-sexy, responsible-ass adult moves that come in real handy when your man becomes a dad.
5. He’s had a dog.This isn’t essential, but a proven ability to clean up another creature’s pee and/or vomit because you love him/her so much is a valuable skill set for fatherhood.
6. He’s sensitive to your needs …He encourages you to brunch with your friends or go get a mani/pedi (with extra chair massage!) when you’re stressed. If he often considers your well-being ahead of his own and just wants you to be happy and sane, this total gem will continue to do so post-baby — for you and the kids. If he's already selfless, he's got a sweet head start on fatherhood.
7. … but he’s no pushover.You’re about to conclude a diatribe on why your boss is a wench for making you come in before 11 a.m. when — boom — he calls you completely ridiculous. And that bitch fight with your mom? He’s not sorry to tell you that it really was your fault. It isn’t always fun, but this man calls BS on you, makes you see things differently, and overall makes you a better human being. Just imagine his positive effect on your child! #blessed
8. He's a self-starter.This résumé trait is also a value add for fatherhood. If he independently decides the two of you should go on a mini-vacay and plans the whole thing, or takes it upon himself to start training for a half-marathon, whether or not you're joining (and you're not, thanks very much), he has the chops for challenging tasks like buckling a child into a car seat or dressing her in a onesie with approximately 400 snaps — all without your supervision. Great dads don’t need moms watching them watch the baby.
9. He was a Junior Olympic swimmer/is a black belt/has a photographic memory/kicks ass at Scrabble … or all of the above.If he’s going to sire your baby, a special talent and the accompanying good genes might be nice. Being able to teach your daughter to karate-chop through a wooden block? How cool would that be?
10. He has a big heart.Look, he’s not perfect. No man is. But he surprises you with flowers when you’re feeling blue or volunteers at the local hospital or tells his grandpa he loves him when he gets off the phone with him. He’s loving and thoughtful, and above all else, that’s what will make this current bro-dawg a future Father of the Year.
11. He wants to be a good dad.Obvious, I realize, but if during your deep convos he voices his desire to be a great dad some day, that's huge. It doesn’t matter if he has absolutely no experience with kids and has never even held a baby in his entire life. If he genuinely wants to be a great dad, there's a high probability he’s going to nail it. Just beware: Watching him do it one day will melt your heart.
SOURCE:
http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/relationship-advice/signs-he-will-be-a-good-dad?src=soc_fcbks
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