Advantages and Disadvantages of Having a Sensitive Friend

"Highly sensitive people are too often perceived as weaklings or damaged goods.

 To feel intensely is not a symptom of weakness, 

it is the trademark of the truly alive and compassionate."

- Anthon St Maarten

Have you ever had such a very sensitive friend?

Well I admit, I am a sensitive one.

I tend to take things personally beyond personal as you can imagine because I dunno as well, actually. It's just that maybe that's who I am or maybe something have had happen to me while I was young that made me being such an emotionally vulnerable one.

How do you even describe a sensitive or emotional person? Perhaps in your mind right now, these are the people who cries all the time over some silly things.

Sensitive people are those who respond more to their emotions. But seriously, being emotional isn't really a bad thing. It just means that you feel things they can't.

Having a sensitive friend isn't bad after all. There are some benefits of having one despite how some people say otherwise.

• They are Sensitive to your Feelings or for Other People.
• They know how it feels to be upset or troubled over something. They are very careful of others' feelings. Simply they don't want you to feel badly over things the way that you do. 

• They are Naturally Caring.
• They are more in touch with your feelings and tend to feel things in a bigger way which includes caring about others in your life. It is easy for them to think of others and have fond feelings toward them. In short, they have a BIG heart. 

• They are Intuitive.
• Being intuitive is somewhat a gift. It means they can pick up things without you being said. They have intuitiveness or you don't. It is something you can usually and definitely trust. 

• Creativity Travels with a Sensitive Personality.
• Creativity is something that can show up in many different forms. Since they are sensitive, they are more likely to be creative. 

• They are Never Selfish
• Most sensitive people are unselfish. They care about others because they know how others might be feeling, and that empathy is such a beautiful thing. They can also help you to go a step further and do what they can for others. 

and of course, the

• Tears are a Common thing
• Whether it's because of the ongoing plight of humanity or whatsoever, you're always going to need a box of tissues nearby. Their emotions are so vivid and the feeling seems to be magnified like 100x and oftentimes, you just can't contain them.

• They can be a "People Pleaser"
• Often the thought of criticism or conflict can be sooo unbearable that you'll go to great lengths to avoid it - at the expense of their own needs. And for that reason, it's so damn hard for them to say "NO" to anything. So you need to be there to remind them that its okay to say no.

• They Find it Hard to Make Decisions
• No matter how small or trivial the dilemma might be, they fear that unsettling sensation that comes with realizing they made the wrong decision. 

• They're Easily Affected by the Moods and Energy Around Them
• Bad vibes are palpable. If your friend is having a bad morning, you can be prone to starting your own day off on the wrong foot, too.  If stress levels are through the roof, so are yours. 

• They're Often Misunderstood
• " Don't take things personally!"
• "Why are you so sensitive?" 
• "Youre so shy!" 
• "Get Over it!

Overall, I think being highly sensitive is a trait we can embrace and use to be more creative and aware. But it demands taking care to live strategically, even outside popular values, to avoid overwhelm so we can better nurture our abilities and creative talents.

My Grey's Anatomy Diary

It always comes as a shock, the moment you realized it's over. 

One minute, you're standing on a solid ground. 

The next minute you're not.

-Meredith Grey

To Whom It May Concern, 

Please do not proceed reading this if you think it will just bore you coz perhaps only Grey's Anatomy lovers can understand what I have been saying below. Don't you give me fuckin' harsh comments just because you don't understand what I have been saying. That's the reason why I entitled this "My Grey's Anatomy Diary". Thank you for the respect. Appreciated. 

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I wasn't supposed to be addicted on this drama series but when boredom had strike me one night, I have no television either so I decided to download an app on my phone called StarzPlay Arabia. And there it all started my Grey's Anatomy addiction. (Thanks btw StarzPlay Haha! )

The story of Grey's Anatomy (for those who aren't fan and just relying on this post), it's a medical drama tv series that focuses on the fictional lives of surgical interns, residents and attendings who each struggle to balance their personal lives with the hectic work and training schedules assigned to them. 

The main character was Meredith Grey portrayed by Ellen Pompeo who was the daughter of an esteemed general surgeon named Ellis Grey, following her acceptance into the residency program at the fictional Seattle Grace Hospital (and was later on changed to Grey Sloan Memorial Hospital - long story so just bear with that). 

At first season, it was quite a very interesting story already until It became my habit every night to watch the series even if I was so freakin sleepy or so drained from work. Even in the morning if my eyes were swollen, my workmates would think that my boyfriend and I fought. If only they knew it was Grey's Anatomy's fault. 

There are few episodes on the season that have marked a lot and cannot be forgotten like when "elevator guy" (the surgeon who operated a patient inside the elevator when he has no choice, no proper equipment but still got the courage to do so to save his patient) also known as George O' Malley who secretly in love with Meredith Grey and the surgeon who was nicknamed as 007 (double O 7), a nickname given to surgeons who tend to kill their patients originating from James Bond's code number, which means "license to kill". To make it short, he was the first main character who died for saving a person from a car crashed. He wasn't known at first that he was Dr. O'Malley until Meredith was the one who discovered that he was George. That episode was the most excruciating feeling I have ever felt + with the themed song speaking a dead language by Joy Williams when Dr Bailey questioned the surgeons to whom the organs of George will be given. (George was an organ donor).

Apart from 007's death, season 10's last episode where Cristina Yang (Meredith's person/bestfriend) bids goodbye to Meredith was also one of the most painful and unforgettable episode (ash in LAGUT!!!) my eyes were swollen the whole day, I still have a morning duty the next day and again my workmates' thoughts me and my boyfriend fought again. Haha!!! That episode as well was when my dream couple (Yang and Hunt) didn't end up as I desperately wanted to be. And the part where Cristina and Mer danced as their "finished thing", I just cried more. T____T (My God! I can't stopped crying! Whats wrong with me!) 

The last but not the least, after how many months of keeping an eye on the series, I finally bid goodbye to the 11th season of Grey's. (Unfortunately starzplay arabia was only until the 11th season of Greys because until today, Grey's Anatomy is still airing and they don't have the 12 and 13th season). Anyways, though I have already heard from the series spoiler (Ate Zel) that Derek Shepherd (Meredith's love of her life, Head of Neurosurgery) died on the series, it was KILING me emotionally watching him being crashed after he witnessed and saved a lot of people from the car accident. Huhuhuh!!! In the aftermath, he was the one who died because of the unskilled doctors who treated him. T_T That's the way it has to be I guess. I hope Shonda Rhimes had a very good reason why he took Derek Shepherd away from Meredith Grey.

It was indeed one heck of a long series. I cried like it was the end of the world when Mer loss her consciousness after she promulgated to everyone that her husband died. That time, I was also having a thing with my boyfriend like some sort of love quarrel, lol. It was really very hard watching the episode when you're also facing some difficult times because literally you will explode. Hahah! Sometimes, when you cry about something, you end up crying about everything that's wrong. Soooo many tears happened for that day. Good thing I was 2 days off from work. 

So yeah. Thats my Grey's Anatomy diary. I apologize if you insisted to read the whole thing and you didn't understand any of it. I already told you in the first part of this post. Heheh. 

Looking forward for the next season on StarzPlay. Hahah! If there is. That would be great. :D 

Thanks for reading! Luv yah! :)

Respect Begets Respect

I intentionally enlarged that image above because nowadays, 

people doesn't know how to do that anymore.

Respect begets respect as a saying goes. That means, give respect, take respect.

To whom it may concern, I have literally lost my respect for you below sea level. 

Come on! What the hell happened to you? Just because you're older, you're senior at work, you think you're smarter, doesn't mean you wont respect the person who is younger than you, new to her job and even have lack of experience! You are supposed to lift her up not pull her down. You are supposed to help find her way because she was lost. You are supposed to be her guide because she doesn't know where to start. You both have the same goals. She's not perfect and neither you. 

When I was young even until I grew up, my mom and dad never missed to remind me always and forever to respect someone (especially older than you) even if they don't respect you. Sometimes, it makes me realize that they are wrong. 

On my 27 years living in this sickly sweet world, I have always been a respectful person because thats what I have been trained for. Within those years, I have respected people even they were not of me. Respect is actually mutual. A person cannot act haughty and expect respect from others like duh! "pagsure oy!" 

Now you might think I am hypocrite. Who cares? Everybody is hypocrite. Its just that I am tired of respecting people without even trying to respect you as well. 

Seriously, not everyone deserves respect. Respect is earned not given.

As per Kuttaiah Chendanda,

Respect begets respect means Give respect, take respect.

I totally agree with you on the views about respecting individuals and person.

But don't always expect to be respected as not everybody is confident enough to lower their ego, be humble and talk with respect.

So be the bigger human, greater soul and respect others, the ones who reciprocate are the ones who are of your mindset.

Just because someone else is rude to you, why do you have to lose your natural qualities and be rude. Be yourself.

People tend to be rude due to a few reasons like,

• Rough upbringing

They think that it is normal to be rude

• Defensive

Scared tto open up

• On purpose

To create the image of a ttough personality

So be calm, humble and sweet to everybody. Calm yet strong and steadfast in your word.

And there it is. 

RESPECT BEGETS RESPECT.